Mailing List for Rape & Sexual Abuse Survivors: ripple back to me

This mailing list is unfortunately no longer active.

However, instead please check out the message board & chat room.

For real-time help from other survivors, please join Pandora's Aquarium, an online support group, message board,

and chat room for rape, sexual abuse, and sexual assault victims.

We decided to start this mailing list because it seems like a lot of people out there need other people who understand what they are going through when healing from sexual assault and abuse. A lot of the emails we receive express the desire to just to talk to other survivors about where they are in the whole healing process and the many struggles that we all have to face. This list will provide that.

This list is basically going to serve as an on-line support group limited to recovery topics. If you're looking for a mailing list for Tori-news or conversations, check out the Dent's mailing list page for a full listing of Tori lists. However, you can talk about how Tori's music has affected you, and some Tori-related topics are perfectly acceptable.

We have set up a list of frequently asked questions. If you have a question that is not answered here or you would like more information, you can reach all the moderators of the list by using this email address.

What is a mailing list?
A mailing list allows people to send email to each other easily. Instead of sending email to everyone on the list, subscribers of a mailing list can send their email to one address, which will then automatically send the message to everyone else. This way, anyone who can identify with the subject of the topic being posted can choose to respond to the person sending the message.

Who can join the list?
This list is only open for male and female survivors of sexual abuse and assault. While we appreciate the support from secondary survivors, and other people just interested in helping, we believe survivors will most benefit from this list if only other survivors are reading their posts and responding to posts. We feel this will create a safer and more understanding environment, and may make it easier to discuss sensitive topics. Please do not subscribe if you are a supporter or loved one of a survivor. There is a mailing list for supporters here: http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2656/index.html

What are the guidelines? (Please read BEFORE subscribing)
Because of the sensitivity of the topic, we have chosen to set up a few guidelines to make this list run smoothly.

This list is for recovery topics only. While this is a pretty broad range, please refrain from posts that are completely off-topic. It is perfectly okay to talk about how Tori's music has helped you heal or the special meaning of a song, as well as other recovery topics such as eating disorders, depression, therapy, relationships, self-injury, etc.

Subscribers need to keep in mind that much of what will be posted may be triggering, but if a particular post is especially triggering, please write the following in your subject title: ** T ** We are also asking that you label why a post is triggering, if possible. For example, you can note that your post is triggering by adding a ** T ** for self-injury or ** T ** for details of my story.

If a list member talks about suicide, the best thing to do is encourage them to GET LOCAL HELP NOW. Remember that most of us aren't trained to talk someone out of suicide, especially online. Suggest they call RAINN (1-800-656-HOPE), go to an emergency room, call a therapist, or find a friend. A really good resource can be found at: Now is Not Forever: A Survival Guide.

This is a *supportive* list. It is very important to remember that not everyone has had the same experiences and may not deal with what happened in the same way. We need to be respectful of everyone's beliefs, ways of coping, and experiences.

We encourage everyone to be as open as they feel they can be. The purpose of this list is for people to share what happened to them so they don't have to feel alone anymore, and receive advice and empathy. We will not tolerate any flaming, bashing, mocking, judging, or ridiculing. If you are harassing or disrespectful to a member, both on or off-list, you may be unsubscribed and/or banned.

When replying to a message, please address the message only to the person for whom it is intended. If you feel the message would benefit everyone on the list, it is fine to address it to the whole list.

Please use plain text email only. Colored fonts and stationary, as well as attachments, do not always get sent to members, especially those subscribed to the digest form.

Who runs the list?
Shannon is the owner of the list and moderates it with the help of Blue Girls, Lis, Kellie, Dani, and Tracey. What this means is that we can decide if what you are posting is on-topic and if it's not, we can choose not to post it to the list. Because this is a high-traffic list, we aim at making the list as on-topic as possible.

These posts may not be approved:
    -obviously off-topic posts.
    -chain letters.
    -prayer requests not directly related to the subject or a member.
    -invititations to join other lists.
        (all at our discretion)

Any posts made to the list that intentionally bash a member of the list will also not be posted. If a particular member causes consecutive problems, we can choose to ban them from the list. Hopefully, this will never happen.

Since there are well over 500 subscribers and we want the list to run well, the moderators have final word in how the list is run and what will and will not be posted, although we are very open to suggestions and comments. Our intention is not to censor the list, but rather to keep it safe and useful.

If you want to know more about the moderators of the list, click here.

How do I join?
To subscribe to the list, click on the link below and follow the instructions. It's super easy. You may want to consider getting another email address for list mail at hotmail or yahoo.

This list has moderated membership. That means that a moderator approves your request to join prior to you being able to post or receive messages. This is just a safety precaution, and you should be a member of the list within 10-15 hours.

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I joined...now what?
After your membership is approved, you will receive a welcome message. It will explain most of what you need to know.

Any questions? Email the moderators to get an answer.

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